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Tuesday, September 28, 2010

To Anonymous

Anonymous left a comment to one of my earlier posts (Every man is an island).
"happiness is like the horizon.. yu can see it ..never reach. while you are in that happy moment, you may not recognize it... buit live life and do things that make you happy.Do you know what makes your wife happy? do you know what makes you happy?"

I find it thrilling to receive anonymous comments,find it exhilarating to the point of being surreal. The comments themselves are not the reasons for my exhilarations, but the realisation that someone I do not know or someone who does not want me to know has thought it important to leave a comment gives me adrenalin shots. In fact, I had written earlier about such an exciting experience in my blog. Dear anonymous, you can read it here.

So, I start here with a big thank you to "Anonymous". That means you have to read on, anonymous. As I just wrote, comments are mostly not the reason for my being overwhelmed; but this time it was an exception.

I am not sure about happiness (that's why I wrote that piece). But, I am sure about it when I feel it. I could not quite convince myself to accept the allegory of happiness being the horizon. I rather think it is like the other side of the river - you can look at it only from the other side. However, you sure can cross the river to reach it. And for that all you need are - will, skill and eyesight. You can learn to be happy, the way you learn not to fall from your bicycle. You just need to look for those little symptoms, faint signals that are precursor to happiness. With some practice, you will be able to forecast when happiness is coming to you. You know, I can feel it right now, because I know once I finish writing this post, I'll be happy.

You can also learn to be happy alone if you fail to have the chance of being happy in other's company, because you hardly have any other option left to you. It is our destiny to avoid being sad or indifferent. Life's dictate is to try to be happy. You learn to be happy alone and you become an island. That's when the danger creeps in. The day you learn to be happy alone you will be encapsulated within yourself. Nobody can ever touch you again.

Dear anonymous, I know what makes me happy. And I also know what makes my wife happy. Will you please tell her that? Or at least tell her to read my posts? That will make me happy.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Buying his first car

As he was tossing and turning on the bed trying to sleep, I realised it will be quite some time before he could sleep. The excitement was too much for him. After all, he has booked the first car of his life - a gleaming white Hyundai Verna CRDi diesel sedan - only a few hours ago. It was the top of the line model that caught his fancy. His mother and I said, so be it and went straight to the car showroom in the evening arriving minutes before it was closing.

I had to take care in arranging everything in advance. Fortunately, I had a friend in the Hyundai showroom whom I had called up last week giving him details of the desire of our son. I also told him that we would come to the showroom on the day after Biswakarma Puja. Thus, everything had been arranged.

It was my friend Aniruddha Deb, the manager of the shop, who greeted us at the door. The actual work was done in five minutes. Deb had pulled out a form and asked my son his name and address. He had carefully written them down in the form and placed it on the windscreen tucked under the wiper of the car my son had chosen. Deb had also given a few piece of paper to our son, apparently acknowledgement of the booking. After that we were offered coffee, which we had, and then we left for home. Simple!

Kabir was toying with the idea of booking the car (the white 2010 model Verna, not the earlier model)for almost one month now. Hyundai has upgraded the earlier model with a new one this year. The new car has a completely refurbished engine, new front design, new headlights and some other cosmetic changes. He used to like the old model too, but according to him the new model was better. Although car companies do not come up with new variant too often, he was apprehensive that Hyundai may bring out another variant of the Verna or may altogether stop production before he can actually arrange the finance to buy it. He realised it would be prudent to immediately book one for himself till he can arrange the money to buy it.

There was nothing wrong with his idea. In fact, I found it perfectly logical. Book the car you want to buy, and then arrange the finance. The only problem I was worried about was that it would be at least 12 more years before he could even apply for a driving license and another five more years before he could actually think of arranging the money to buy it. The predicament for the car company would be that this effectively meant that they will have to book the car and keep it for him for the next 17 years!

Because, as you all probably know, Kabir is only six years old now.